Let's Straighten It Out -
Listen for the "underneath." Often, the thing we are arguing about isn't the real issue. Listen for the feelings behind the facts. The Relief of Clarity
Check your "why." Are you trying to prove you’re right, or are you trying to fix the bond? If it's the former, wait. If it's the latter, proceed. Let's Straighten It Out
Own your part. Use "I" statements. Instead of saying, "You made me feel ignored," try, "I felt a bit disconnected after our last talk, and I wanted to check in." Listen for the "underneath
"Let’s straighten it out" are four of the most healing words in the English language. They signal that the relationship is more important than the ego. So, if there is a knot in your life right now, don't wait for it to untie itself. Reach out, speak up, and smooth it over. If it's the former, wait
There is a profound lightness that comes after a difficult, honest conversation. Even if the resolution isn’t perfect, the "tangle" is gone. You no longer have to guess what the other person is thinking or carry the weight of a grudge.
